I almost never get emotional but when something intense throws me off completely off balance, it hits me… hard. I have been going through a lot the past few days. Its been a little of an emotional roller-coaster with things coming at me from every conceivable angle. I would like to reveal a lot of what is going on at the moment with me but I will keep it under wraps for the time being. A lot of it is just personal emotional issues I have been suppressing caused by all that’s happening around me. Things I am not opening up to feeling. Things I really don’t want to feel. My head has been all over the place. Confused. Not really knowing what to do or how to feel. Today was breaking point, and I really couldn’t hold it all in. I just lost it when I got home and it wasn’t pretty. So I turned to the only people I thought would help me. My best friends.
I have grown around people of different mentalities and physical mannerisms. I mostly observed the people around me, how they acted and responded to many different scenarios. I wasn’t introverted. But at the same time, I took it upon myself, during my self-discovery phase, to monitor just how people really are. As I became more outgoing and comfortable in my own skin, I had interactions with all kinds of people from all walks of life. I came to realize just how different humanity is. Just how different the people I was calling *friends* were. Paying attention to who people really were or are now for that matter.
And in that way, I have changed my circle of friends almost four or five times within the last four years. With each new group of friends handing me a little piece of knowledge about life through themselves and their experiences, I learned exactly what I didn’t need in my life. Negativity. Pride. Egotism. Showing up when its convenient for them and disappearing when the friendship agreement didn’t serve their best interests. But in that way, through sieving through all the pathetic dirt and sorting through the rough grain, I found the diamonds I now call my friends. My best friends. With the same drive and vision for life. The same fiery passion for things they are going after. The same mindset about life and what it has to offer. A mature group of individuals I look up to especially since they are in fact older and more sharpened to what life has to offer than I am. So, ideally, it was them I turned to when I was going through this weird phase.
You never really appreciate friendship until you see it come alive in the people you talk to. I never had this before, not to this extent. It was a void that really hadn’t been filled by anyone. But with time, the right people did show themselves through the doorway and into my life.
So, having my best friends come out and tell me that sometimes it doesn’t get easier when it comes to what we have going on with us deep in there… That sometimes it just gets harder… To be alive to certain realities in life and just taking everything that comes as a learning curve… Having them tell me that being a student of life is the best way to create solutions for what it throws at you- to learning how to really live… Having them admit to me that emotional vulnerability doesn’t make me weak- that experiencing all these emotions and learning how to control them actually makes me stronger… And finally making me smile and laugh and forget a little of the burden I am feeling right now in my head… Easing the complicated and making it look like nothing… I couldn’t have asked for better partners in crime. It just goes to show what real genuine friendship is really meant to be like.
It just goes to show how special a certain group of friends can be, and the impact they can impose in your life. Now, I don’t care what kinda friends you have, but I think the most important thing is knowing if, no matter what, they have got your back. Through thick and thin, over a cliff and staring down the barrel of a gun, they are right there with you. What’s simply beautiful is that you would do the same for them.
So, in light of all this love I am feeling for my best friends, my weekly obsession is Not A Bad Thing by Justin Timberlake. It’s an amazing song, and it made me think about what real friendship/relationships really mean. Check this specific version out, it is my favorite.
Love You Special Peeps. XOXO.